Month 5 · Lead Others
Private Fire
Recover a spiritual life that transforms the leader before it powers the platform.
Capacity being formed
Spiritual Depth
Sustain an honest life with God that precedes and powers public leadership.
Evidence of formation
The participant establishes a consistent private rhythm and documents one motive shift that changes an outward action.
Language from Mike
“Jesus already won and proved His power over darkness.”
Biblical anchor · ESV
“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me.”
Discovery tool
Prayer & Motive Map
Build a Prayer & Motive Map across relationship, desire, motive, delegated authority, promise, surrender, and obedience.
Relationship
Write what you want to say to God before making a request.
Coach: “What becomes honest when you stop trying to sound spiritual?”
Desire + motive
Name the desired outcome and every motive you can see—loving, fearful, mixed, or unknown.
Coach: “If God answered differently, what would feel threatened?”
Surrender
Write what is outside your control and what obedience remains inside your control.
Coach: “What are you being invited to release, receive, or repair?”
Act
Choose one obedient response that can begin within 24 hours.
Coach: “What will make this prayer visible in your conduct?”
No-prep facilitator guide
The complete 90-minute run-of-show
Bring the participant’s CT Scan result, this page, a timer, and a way to write. Read the coach language as written when useful; follow the person more closely than the clock when safety or truth requires it.
| Time | Phase | Coach does + says | Participant does |
|---|---|---|---|
| 0–7 | Arrive | Say: “This conversation is confidential within the limits we agreed. What would make these 90 minutes useful?” Then lead three slow breaths and a brief prayer. | Rate present intensity 0–10; name one desired outcome. |
| 7–15 | Witness | Ask for one piece of evidence since the last session. Reflect effort, choice, support, and result—without inflating it. | Name what changed, what helped, and what remains difficult. |
| 15–25 | Language | Read the Mike Signorelli line and John 15:4. Ask what each exposes or invites in the live situation. | Underline one phrase; explain it in your own words; choose the phrase you need today. |
| 25–45 | Prayer & Motive Map | Guide the four fields in order. Do not interpret ahead of the participant. Start with: “What becomes honest when you stop trying to sound spiritual?” | Write concise answers for all four fields using one current, concrete situation. |
| 45–57 | Locate | Ask the remaining tool prompts, then: “What is the pattern beneath the performance?” Allow silence. | Name the governing story, protection, motive, expectation, or system and the cost it creates. |
| 57–70 | Rehearse | Practice the twelve-minute altar once in session: Arrive 1, Adore 2, Attend 2, Align 2, Ask 2, Act 3. Coach keeps time and protects silence; participant records only the next obedient response. | Practice the new response out loud; receive feedback; repeat until the first step is clear and natural. |
| 70–82 | Prescribe | Choose the smallest sustainable practice. Specify cue, frequency, duration, support, and visible evidence. Explain the research carefully as support—not certainty. | Select the practice, calendar it, and identify the witness or environmental support. |
| 82–90 | Covenant | Ask: “What will you do, by when, who will know, and what proof will exist?” Read the safety boundary before closing in prayer. | State one commitment, one witness, one due date, and one piece of evidence. Rate confidence 0–10; shrink the plan if below 7. |
Why the practice can work
Why structured reflection can help
An early controlled study found that writing about both facts and emotions surrounding a difficult event was linked with short-term discomfort and fewer later health-center visits. SLS keeps reflection bounded, voluntary, and oriented toward present responsibility.
Read the primary source →Pennebaker & Beall (1986), Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 95(3), 274–281
Thirty-day prescription
Practice until it becomes available under pressure.
Five days weekly · 12 minutes
Complete the six-part altar at a stable time and place.
Evidence: Date, one-word posture, and one obedient response.
Weekly
Share one motive shift with a trusted spiritual witness.
Evidence: The outward action that changed because the motive changed.
Care + scope boundary
Prayer supports formation but does not replace sleep, medical care, therapy, safeguarding, or honest conversation. Never frame symptoms or trauma as a failure of faith.
Monthly evidence review
Measure formation in real life.
Private reflection
What are you asking God to change around you that He may be changing within you?
Source lineage
Original SLS facilitation design synthesized from Mike Signorelli’s books and leadership frameworks. Scripture quotations are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, used by permission. All rights reserved.